When does pillow talk need to be serious?
In a society saturated with sexual content, we are still very bad at having sensitive, nuanced and factual conversations with those close to us about our own sexuality.
The topic of sex sounds the siren in our minds and hinders open dialogue. This is especially worrisome when a person’s sex life creates psychological distress.
Here are three possible signs that it may be time to make sex a topic of conversation with your partner.
#1. Is your partner just complying for you and vice versa?
We are told that compromises and adjustments for the sake of a relationship should be appreciated. But what happens when we bring that same philosophy into our sex lives and try to achieve a narrative we probably don’t want?
Generally speaking, this is not good for the relationship. However, it is more common than we think, even in men.one study published in Psychology and Sex Tracking rates of sexual compliance (consensual but unwelcome sexual activity) among heterosexual men found that about 60% of the men in their sample engaged in mild sexual compliance with their partners within 12 months.
In other words, sexual compliance is very common in both men and women. While the root of this behavior is altruistic in nature, it can have a detrimental effect on your relationship quality, sexual satisfaction, and even your mental health.
Educating yourself about gender stereotypes and forgetting the “martyr” condition of self-sacrifice so you can invite or decline sexual activity as you wish can help you lay the groundwork for a healthier relationship.
#2. Will porn consumption get in the way?
Browsing porn in a relationship can be tricky. Here’s what the latest research says about this complex issue.
On average, porn use alone was negatively associated with factors such as relationship and sexual satisfaction.
On the other hand, some couples who watched porn together had higher short-term sexual satisfaction. There are many reasons for this, such as:
- Shared pornography consumption may point to similar sexual attitudes, sexual preferences, and desires. Generally speaking, the more similar people are, the better the relationship.
- It’s also possible that simply engaging in shared novel and exciting activities with a spouse or partner, such as watching porn together, can ease relationship boredom and rekindle each other’s sexual (and non-sexual) interests
- Shared porn consumption can also foster increased sexual communication and experimentation that reignites sexual excitement
According to researcher Taylor Kohut, it all comes down to whether you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to porn consumption and sex. Differences in porn use make it very clear that you may not be.
#3. Is happiness unbalanced?
recent Research published in evolutionary behavioral science According to reports, about 50% of men experience an orgasm with every intercourse. For women, the figure is only around 4%.other Research published in Sexual Behavior Archives These percentages are reported to be around 75% for heterosexual men and 33% for heterosexual women.
This phenomenon, known as the orgasm gap, is more prevalent among heterosexual couples than among bisexual and same-sex couples.
This means that the female orgasm is considered more difficult to achieve than it actually is, simply because it is biologically different from the male orgasm. Solution: Diversify your sexuality.
According to research, you can use the following steps to close the orgasm gap:
- Oral and manual stimulation key to female orgasm
- Wearing sexy lingerie/undergarments, combining mini massages/back massages, trying new sexual positions, or bathing or bathing together increases the chances of orgasm for both men and women
In conclusion, the orgasm gap can be reduced by addressing sociocultural factors and engaging in a wider range of activities in intimate relationships.
in conclusion
Sexual health and intimacy are integral to the health and longevity of a relationship (and even your own mental health). Cultivating a safe space for open conversation and experimentation can bring benefits far beyond sex.
